Grace House – Sharing Stories of Recovery

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19 October 2018

Grace House – Sharing Stories of Recovery

We’ve been developing our gender-specific residential service Grace House over the last 3 years. Our programme incorporates a range of sessions aimed at supporting women’s recovery from substance misuse and trauma as well as accredited workshops and therapeutic activities.

Over the comings weeks we'll be sharing stories of clients who have benefitted from Grace House

We have change the client’s name and some potentially recognisable details of her story in order to protect their anonymity.

Scarlett's Story

Scarlett had been dependent on alcohol for over 20 years before coming to Grace House. When she moved abroad at 18 she missed her family, which led her to develop negative thoughts. She drank as a way to cope with this. She also developed bulimia in this time. Recreational drinking quickly turned into dependence, although she didn’t realise this at the time and thought that she was like everyone else. Scarlett says maybe she knew deep down that she had become addicted, but that she was in denial. Her family and friends knew her drinking was getting out of control as she was falling out of bars and ending up in A&E regularly. They were concerned about her, but Scarlett said that she would quit on her own.

Scarlett lost friends at university due to her drinking habits as she said they lost patience and respect for her. She would drink at work and her work suffered, resulting in her losing a number of jobs. She and her husband split up which badly affected her confidence. Her self-esteem had been low since childhood, and when in that negative mind-set, she drank to cope. She was drinking three bottles of wine, and a few beers every day, and kept vodka in her bag at all times.

Scarlett’s breakthrough came one day when she was sitting in the park on her own drinking a bottle of wine. She looked around and realised that what she was doing was not normal behaviour. She realised that she didn’t want that life anymore, and that if she carried on then her life would be a sad and lonely existence.

Scarlett was in a rehab in the North of England, but moved to Grace House after she relapsed and realised she had to confront other issues such as her bulimia. She liked the holistic treatment at Grace House, and started to address her eating disorder through referrals with therapists. At first she thought being with all women would be daunting, but it’s turned out to be quite the contrary, and she finds the community and support of all the strong women around her amazing. She says it has been a weight off her shoulders, and that she’s learned it is ok to be vulnerable. She says that when she entered Grace House, she was disgusted at her own reflection, but that every day feels better and that she has now started to like what she sees in the mirror.

Phoenix Futures is a registered charity in England and Wales (No 284880) and in Scotland (No SCO39008); Company Limited by Guarantee Number 1626869; Registered Provider of Social Housing with Homes England (H3795).