Like most people entering rehab, I had my misgivings about entering Ophelia House. I had actually been in two other mixed rehabs previously, and I was used to the structures they had, but I relapsed after both. They were only 28-day programmes and my alcohol support worker suggested I needed longer and that’s something Ophelia House offered, but I felt unsure about it and how the dynamic might change in a women-only rehab.
In fact, the dynamic did change – but for the better. I feel very different about Ophelia House than I did about the last two rehabs I was in. It’s hard to put your finger on it, but there’s something about the closeness of the community, and even though we all have different stories and backgrounds, we’re all aiming for the same thing.
When I first arrived, I felt awkward. It’s awkward for anyone to walk into any rehab, but I felt really daunted walking through those gates. It was also a bit difficult because I went during a weekend when things are a bit more informal and things move at a slower pace. However, we all got allocated a buddy – someone who’s been there for a fair amount of time and is the main person you can go to for support – and that made a huge difference. Plus, when Monday came round, the full structure was back in place and we were going to more regular groups and things and that really helped me to settle in.
I’ve learnt a lot about myself while being at Ophelia. I’ve lived on my own for most of my adult life so the idea of sharing the house was really daunting, being surrounded by people from 8am until 8pm, but I’ve actually discovered that I’m far more sociable than I thought I was. It’s given me the tools to practice empathy, patience and tolerance and, even though we’re all from different backgrounds, we respect each other’s journey and we get along really well.
I’ve been here five weeks now and, a few days ago I shared my life story. While I was writing it, I thought that it’s the community, all the women I’m here with, who are really helping me through.
I’d tell tell anyone seeking support to definitely consider residential rehab. It’s very tough but it’s so worth it. Right before I came here I was in hospital and I was adamant that I just wanted to go home – I really stuck my heels in. But residential rehab really is your best shot, and you have to give it your all.
In rehab, we’re a community. We all work together and we have a good team but ultimately you’re there for yourself - you need to get yourself better. But being in a rehab like Ophelia House is a realty fortunate position to be in so you need to work hard and take everything you can from it. It’s your best chance for recovery.
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